Last summer at this time I was reading to the kids in the brand new Zen Den, gardening, spending time with my family in the mountains, and riding/grooming/bathing our horses and ponies. It was the first time in years I had felt... at peace. It was shaping up to be one of the best summers of my life. And, best of all, I was loving the ages of my kids and the time we were getting to spend together.
This year is a different story. I find myself in a constant state of stress. I am scrambling to meet timelines, madly trying to keep the house and property in good condition and feeling guilty about not spending enough time reading, riding horses or in the mountains, which in turns means I am not relaxing with my family... or relaxing at all for that matter. In fact, I haven't spend more than five minutes in the Zen Den, and that was just to clean it. Not so Zen after all.
You may wonder why this dramatic change. There are multiple factors. No. Actually there is probably one main factor...
Did I mention that our house is for sale? Oh, yeah. That. The same house that Brock is still remodeling. BECAUSE HAVING A HOUSE ON THE MARKET IN THE MIDDLE OF A BATHROOM REMODEL AND SHARING IT WITH TWO KIDS AND FOUR PETS AND 5,908 TOYS IS SUPER AWESOME. Oh, you say the client wants to see it in 30 minutes? NO PROBLEM.
It takes me 30 minutes to load two rambunctious kids and two idiot dogs into the truck, much less clean the entire house and straighten the yard. Yes, I said "straighten the yard". If you don't understand this term, you clearly do not have boys. I have to untie shit strung across from the playhouse to the Ash tree to the patio, then I have to clear a minimum of ten Tonka trucks and other plastic "outdoor" vehicles, as well as remove scraps of paper, nerf bullets, catfood and dirty socks from the lawn furniture. Yes, dirty socks live on the outside tables too, not one penis in this house limits his dirty socks to just the kitchen island or the the coffee table. Then I have to deconstruct the fort, which was created from the lawn furniture not containing dirty socks. Then I remove the 47 sticks, tennis balls and large pieces of mulch that Red Dog has dropped that morning on the stoop, waiting for something to throw it. Lastly, I do a dog poo sweep, pull a few stray weeds, and say a prayer.
I won't go into more details for now. I plan on crying my way through this process then telling you all about it afterwards. Because I like to tell myself that after enough time has passed, I can make anything funny and lighthearted. For now, I will take any positive thoughts and well wishes, because after you read the rest of this post, you will realize that we need more good stuff and less bullshit. Thanks.
Yesterday, after a struggle with a loved one, my Mom told me about something she had heard on television regarding gifts in your life. It was one of the uplifting programs she watches to keep her friendly and helpful at her job. (She works with the general public, need I say more?) It was complicated, but essentially, the TV told her that you should invite the dove of peace to rest on your windowsill instead of chasing it away.
Well, I like birds. In fact, my wedding cake was covered in them. And my friend even gave me a bird book for my birthday last year. So this bird of peace analogy struck a chord with me.
This morning, after yet again being awoken far too early by my spouse, I opened the door for Red Dog's early morning pee and saw a grey dove (some may say pigeon, I say dove) sitting on the landscaping off the stoop. It was no more than two feet from me. I froze for a minute and absorbed the deep meaning of this bird. It was clearly my dove of peace. As I was watching it, I caught movement from the corner of my eye. In a flash of golden fur, Captain Fluffernutter leaping through the air towards my fucking dove of peace, which took off in a violent flurry of grey feathers.
No more than two hours later I found myself searching boxes in our vintage camper for something that used to be in the bathroom that is under reconstruction. It was nail polish remover and it's been there for over two months, which should tell you about both my current level of self-care and also how effing crazy this effing slow remodel is making me. Anyhoo, I was digging through a bin in the camper and heard a fluttering. I looked up to see a precious little brown bird (I'll consult my bird book another day) trapped in the trailer. It was clearly another bird of peace. I helpfully leaned forward, away from the open door and said, "Go on out the door."
Just like all the penises in this house, the daft bird didn't listen to me. Instead, he kept wildly throwing himself against the glass.
I sighed and crept into the back of the trailer. I tried to open a window with no luck (the word "vintage" is code for "old and in need of massive repair") As I went for the second window, I saw the birdie flap over to the corner on the floor. Thinking he was safe, I continued to crank open the window. I turned around to a slamming noise just in time to see Smelly Cat capture the tiny tweeter in his massive saber teeth. Then he carried my bird of peace out the open trailer door where, like a seasoned killer, he swiftly and violently broke the bird's neck. Then he casually spit out my peace bird and sauntered away.
Shocked, I returned inside to my family. Not having a firm plan on the day, I stuffed myself with an array of meats and cheeses, then topped myself off with a blueberry muffin. I was satisfied, but realized the error in my meal planning when I gave into the boys incessant pleading to got to the pool, which required me to wear a bathing suit. Regretting the muffin, I sighed and resigned myself to have fun.
While driving the boys to the pool, my brake light came on. Puzzled because I never set the parking brake, I checked to see if it was on. I was relieved until I entered a roundabout and realized I basically had no brakes.
So, home we went. Peace.
(This post is from August 2016)